Here is a great holiday opener you guys can use. Its a lot of fun and you can get sexual very quick. Literally bring a piece of mistletoe to the club with you. Go up to a girl, smile, and then say "Mistletoe!" followed by an attempt to insta kiss. If she turns away or stops you, you say "Hey, I don't make the rules!", and then try again. If you get the kiss, great, if not, transition to normal conversation. The key to going for the kiss is to inch forward slowly as to give the girl time to react. You don't want to face punch them with your mouth.
Now obviously, this is a pretty ballsy opener so guys with AA are probably not going to attempt it. However, if you have manageable AA, its a lot of fun. I did this opener last weekend and had great results. Heck, I didn't even use real mistletoe. I went up to a shrub in Marquee night club, tore off a piece and used that instead. Out of like 12 or so girls I opened with that opener, only one girl called me out for not using real mistletoe. Lets be cereal, these girls aren't botanists with understanding of mistletoe taxonomy, NOMSAYIN?
Your results will obviously vary depending on your delivery and your level of hotness. Out of the 12 or so girls, I got like 2 insta makeouts and 3 kiss on the cheek but one of them I snuck a quick kiss on the mouth. With an opener like this, its going to be high risk and high reward. But since its such a simple and low investment opener, its great inside big clubs. Even if you get denied a kiss, its still funny as fuck. Again, just because she doesn't kiss you, it doesn't mean the set is done. Keep going on the set.
PS: I give credit to Psych. He has good game and also a big dick.
Not a specific how to post but just some thoughts and insights.
Winging
You don't need a wing to start out. A lot of beginners feel the need to have a wing to go out. Sure, its kind of cool to have a wing, you guys can pump each other's state and encourage each other and its a lot more fun... however from a technical point of view of the set, wings aren't necessary (when you're new).
The reason is this... a wing should not come in until the set is HOOKED. The purpose of a wing is to help you ISOLATE your target from her friends. If you're struggling to hook most sets, a wing coming in is likely to fuck up your set even more. You should just be working on your own verbals. Think about it. If the set is not hooked, its very volatile. Any time you reach a low point, the set is at risk of leaving. What happens when the wing comes in? Its an initial disruption to the set and a lot of times the girl will leave as soon as the wing comes in because you have to address your wing and some times the girls take that opportunity to leave.
The only exception is if your wing is significantly better than you. In that case, you're going to passively learn from him. However, if you suck, and your wings suck too, just go out solo till you're at a decent level.
Personally, I show up to venues with friends however, most of the time I just run my own sets. Its always served me quite well. We usually meet up afterwards for food. Only in certain instances, I will text my friends to come wing me if I feel like there is a window opening and I need a distraction. I usually don't do the whole night alternating winging and being winged.
In a nutshell, don't go out with someone just because you feel the need to have a wing. A wing who is skilled is great but a shitty wing is far worse than going out solo.
Demoing
Obviously, I demo during infields however, I do demos that I feel are pertinent to the students skill level. If you have massive approach anxiety, I will focus the demo on ways to get in state and how to rapidly open sets. I'm not going to try and demo on how to have a fucking 6-some. Seriously last week, a student told me that instead of him opening and approaching that night, he just wanted me to open a 3-set of hot girls, pull them ALL to my condo, he would wing me and have the other student wing the 3rd girl, and we would all have a merry 6-some orgy. Are you fucking kidding me? This isn't fairy tale land where you read some pickup books and you're magically Hugh Heffner. Even if I brought 3 girls back to my pad, the other 2 students wouldn't have the skills to pull it off. They were complete beginners.
Also, if you are a student and I am demoing, don't try to wing me. It usually doesn't work out that way. Just observe me (if you want to see me progress further in set). This applies more so to loud venues and dance floor environments where girls are ADD and you don't get to utilize your verbals as much because its too loud. I was a Hakkasan and I opened an Asian girl set and my student comes in literally less than 1 minute later, the set wasn't hooked and the girls said "Is that your friend, HAHAHA". I told them they were a bitch for judging my friend. Fucking Asian girls.
A lot of pickup guys don't realize that most people are friends because they share commonalities and this doesn't including browsing the same pickup forum lair. People who are friends tend to be in same social circles, have similar levels of fashion, hobbies, and as crazy as this sounds, similar levels of fitness and attractiveness. Look at groups of girls in social circles and clubs. If you look at a group of 5 girls, their level of attractiveness is maybe +/- 2 give or take on a rough level. You're are rarely going to see a fucking HB10 stunner standing next to a 300 pound Rosie O'Donnell lookalike. Birds of a feather flock together.
What does this mean? If your wing exercises, you should too. If your wing wears a suit to the club, don't be that guy that wears an oversized t-shirt with dirty baggy pants and sneakers. Actually make it look like you guys really do hang out. If the wingman's skill is better, he can usually wing. Just note, he needs to tone down his energy as to not steal the show. If the wingman's skill is worse, he is likely to ruin the set unless he has a baseline level of ability. For example, I can usually wing my students no problem (after they hook), but few students can wing me unless its a very low energy environment and the girls are receptive.
Pics of me winging my student. I dunno why he gave me the prettier girl. Not my fault!
Most of you guys have seen this video. The video is my first set of the day at Eaton Mall in Toronto. The girl immediately asks if I was part of a group because 3 guys had previous approached her with a similar opener. All of which failed to get her number which I did easily but that's not the point of this post lol.
This was 2 months ago. But since, the mall has gotten even worse when it comes to PUA running around rampant that security is now purposefully looking for guys approaching girls. Here are some related links.
I want to share my perspectives because if guys keep doing this, they are going to ruin day game for all of us.
Day game is very different than night game.
There are things in game you want to learn like dominance, kino, physical escalation, hard teases. Practice and learn that shit in NIGHT GAME.
Day game is not night game. Its not a social environment where people are primed to talk. People are out and about in their own worlds doing random errands and not with the intentions of socializing to strangers.
Also, day game isn't fueled by alcohol which means any type of weirdness and creepiness will be detected and picked up by the girl. You can get away with being somewhat weird if you have good energy level and you're a lot of fun at night, but it is very noticeable during the day. All that weird gamey shit and routines that kind of work at night comes across creepy during the day.
The world is much smaller than you think.
When I started pickup, I used to think the world was my wonderland. There would be infinite number of sets and I would be totally anonymous. The world is MUCH MUCH smaller than you think. I have bumped into the same girls dozens of times. Lots of girls have seen my infield videos and called me out and I have never met them ever. I have met girls in one city and bumped into them in another city. If I have an infield footage of a girl without blurring their face, there is a 50% chance they will find out. Don't forget I am in one of the biggest metropolitan areas in the United States. Los Angeles and Vegas are big fucking playgrounds. Even still, its pretty small. Keep in mind, the bigger the playground, the more other PUAs there are out there. Places like 3rd Street Promenade of Santa Monica, Beverly Hills Center Mall, Fashion Valley Mall of San Diego are all rampant with pickup dudes. With a trained eye, its so easy to spot.
The things you do have serious repercussions. The very reason of what makes day game awesome is that the approaches appear genuine and that its the first time in a long while the girl has been approached. A girl who has been approached during the day with failed attempts will feel much more awkward than if she got hit on poorly in a club because in a club, its expected.
If you're the first person who approached her in a month, the interaction is likely going to be great (assuming you have skills). However, if she was approached poorly even just once that day... its going to negatively affect your interactions significantly. Problems with in-field videos and glamorization of flash game and instant makeouts.
Two main reasons. Lots of videos on YouTube tell you that its okay to do whatever the fuck you want and just be in state. You see lots of videos where guys do anti-anxiety drills like dancing in public, or shouting in public, or doing ridiculous things. Learning pickup has lots of segments in which you acquire a skill by going the extreme, but once you learn it, you need to SCALE back. For example, people who run out of things to say will need to learn how to plow and be the never ending talker. But at at the certain stage, you need to actually scale back and talk less so the girl can start talking and invest. The same applies with dealing with anxiety. Doing too much anti-anxiety drills can make you become numb to social norms. When you do weird shit over and over and over... it becomes a habit and you become a weird dude. Doing these drills once you are able to manage anxiety and approach does not provide additional benefits and in fact will be more detrimental.
The last point is the glamorization of flash game. People think its sooooo cool to go up to a girl in the mall and start making out. That's fucking weird and invasion of privacy. You can not force kino like that. It makes girls VERY uncomfortable. Now you might ask... "can you pull it off?". The answer is YES, you CAN pull it off, but it will be a very small percentage of girls. Obviously you see instructor level guy doing infields where they are doing insta-makeouts. However, do you know how many girls they have creeped out BEFORE getting that select few footages and only uploading THOSE FEW footages on YouTube? And imagine if thousands of people watch that and attempt this, how quickly a mall can get blown out?
If the end game is to go on a day 2 with a girl, there really is no reason to try to makeout with her in the mall. What for? Its just fucking flash. Be normal, make a solid connection, set up a day 2 that favors you logistically and have it be in an environment that IS seducible.
The first barrier in pickup is eliminating anxiety. A percentage of men do that. However, there is a relatively large percentage of guys that are stuck in this plateau. They don't get that much better at game and they don't get better with calibration. As a result, they attempt to increase lay count by sheer volume and doing the numbers game. Essentially, they are running the same shit routine / style and getting conversions by pure brute force numbers. If you think about it, their game really isn't getting any better. And if too many people run shitty numbers game.... you're going to have a lot of pissed off women. Every girl has different levels of receptiveness. Some are down for instant makeouts, some aren't. You must evaluate accordingly.
General guidelines with day game.
Open from behind, but once she turns around, you need to stop. If you don't stop, she won't stop. Continue to deliver your opener even if she is appearing to continue walking because she has to overcome some forward inertia.
If you can't get her to stop, too bad. You're done. Never follow a girl during day game.
If she says she has a boyfriend, don't persist. Say "Hes a lucky guy" and eject.
Pay attention to your surroundings. The less people around the more noticeable you are. Pay attention to security guards, pay attention to hired guns who are staying outside of the store handing out freebies. If you notice people staring at you for an extended amount of time, its time to move to another location.
It is tempting to open hired guns because they work there and they tend to be nicer. However, because the fact they work there means they can't walk away from you, which creates an awkward situation if it doesn't go well. Also because they are working there, you are likely to bump into them again and again in the future.
No crazy peacocking that makes you stand out but also don't dress like a kiosk seller (typically black shirts).
Again, try to be "normal". Save the crazy shit for night game (my favorite).
Here is a quick how to post and it pertains to end game. This is one method that has worked consistently. I don't know why I keep telling you guys my best secrets. I am pretty sure some girl is going to read my blog sooner or later and call me out on my tactics.
It helps to know how to actually give a good massage. Just go to a massage place and get a few deep tissue massages to you know some techniques. Its really not that hard.
Basically you remove all the chairs in your room so she has to sit on your bed. Turn on some good music.
Start giving her a neck massage sitting down. Then go ahead and make her face down and start giving her a back massage. At this point, the clothes are still on.
When she starts getting into it, tell her you got a this new Kama Sutra massage oil kit from your friend who works at the massage place (your friend aka Amazon) and you are dying to try it. Basically you tell her to take her shirt off because you don't want to get oil on her shirt (totally valid reason!). At this point bra is probably still on. As you get more and more oil on her, you eventually tell her the bra needs to come off. Then you start rubbing her legs and quickly gloss your hands on the bottom side where her boobs are. The key is to do it very quickly to test the waters. You don't want to plant your hand on her boobs unless you know shes down. You basically slowly have your hands run across it longer and longer until she is totally okay with your hands there. You can rub her thighs with her pants on and basically get your hands close to her crotch. The idea is gradually acclimate her to your touches. At this point, shes probably wet. You should probably have your shirt off. Having a six pack obviously helps.
From here, you can either take off her pants and massage her legs and then flip her over, or you can flip her over with her pants on and start making out with her. At this point, you should be dry humping her. Once you feel like shes getting more into it, you tell her that her pants are really rough and uncomfortable and you take off both your pants off.
Obviously no means no. If she pushes you off, stop. If its token resistance, here are some common responses.
When pants are still on "We're not having sex"
"Of course not, we are just dry humping"
When underwear still on "W'ere not having sex"
"I just want you to straddle me"
When completely naked '"We're not having sex"
"Of course not, I just want to rub it on your clit"
or
"Of course not, I'm just going to put it in real quick, and I will pull it right back out"
Just remember to pay attention if its token resistance or real resistance. Unless you're totally uncalibrated, its not hard to tell. If shes still doing what you guys were previously doing... its still on.
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Here is a great holiday opener you guys can use. Its a lot of fun and you can get sexual very quick. Literally bring a piece of mistletoe to the club with you. Go up to a girl, smile, and then say "Mistletoe!" followed by an attempt to insta kiss. If she turns away or stops you, you say "Hey, I don't make the rules!", and then try again. If you get the kiss, great, if not, transition to normal conversation. The key to going for the kiss is to inch forward slowly as to give the girl time to react. You don't want to face punch them with your mouth.
