I guess for the same reasons why you see plenty of doctors with smoking habits and pharmacists who abuse drugs... plenty of girls who appears to be good girls are terribly irresponsible when it comes to sex. From my personal experience, roughly 80% of girls won't care if you don't use a condom. This appears to be independent of race, career, education level, and how much of a clubber she is. I find that pretty alarming. I guess its not that crazy... just go to dating sites like Plenty of Fish and Okcupid and you will see how many chicks have kids.
Some personal stories here. Nurses are quite a notorious group. They always tell me they work hard and play hard and I always hear the craziest stories. The one I hung out a while back cheated on her boyfriend and doesn't care if there was a condom or not. I also dated a middle school teacher who taught sex ed class but apparently doesn't follow any of the content she preaches. When asked why she taught the class, she told me she did it for a Starbucks gift card. LOL WTFBBQ. Same with prude Asian girls. A lot of times they look goodie goodie on the surface but in closed doors, the same can't be said. But then you see girls who hookup all the time be very strict about condom use. I guess its out of necessity...
I do find girls with lots of gay male friends or roommates tend to more sexually open. This is because gay dudes have no sexual inhibitions and I am sure it rubs off on the girl. Every time I open some chick at the club who happens to be with their gay friends and I befriend the gay dude for tactical reasons, they try to get the girl to do some nasty shit. Its almost like they are helping me seed and prime sexual thoughts in her head and doing it for me.
These are just my experiences. I think ultimately unless you pry about their dating history and stuff its hard to tell on the first night. I don't usually bring it up because a lot of times, its a state break. One thing is for sure. If you pretend to put it in without a condom and she doesn't object, you're not the only one she's raw doggin.
If you follow my blog, you know I like traveling and also photography.
Its sort of a serene contrast to all the clubs and drunk girls I bump into every night. After this trip, I will have seen most of North America. My roommate and I are going and we found that 3 people tend to be the best number for long distance road trips. If you're interested, skip to the bottom. We are taking off this Sunday (April 27, 2014) so you have 2-3 days to get to Vegas if you want to join! Otherwise, we are going with just 2 people. If you think about it, planning a trip is kind of like planning logistics for a date!
The destinations include:
Yellowstone National Park, Wyoming
Glacier National Park, Montana
Banff National Park, Canada
Glacier National Park, Alaska
Denali National Park, Alaska
Why This Trip?
I haven't been to any of these national parks except Yellowstone but I was 8 when I went so I don't remember anything. Also, most of the landscapes are mountainous so it is a contrast to the desert places of California and Vegas. I have never been to Alaska so this will be a new experience.
The Planning
For a trip with this much mileage, we decided it was best to rent a car. Its spring season, there are a lot of bugs, plus my VW GTI isn't exactly gas efficient. I love to snack while driving, not a good idea to mess up my car. Generally I make a spread sheet like this, which populates each day and where I am going to be. The spreadsheet will also include the travel mileage and the hotels already established. Since there will be quite a bit of drive between each destination, we can tweak the specifics at each national park while on the road. Some other considerations are obviously the data plan in Canada. I will have to figure that out soon. Planning on driving 1539 miles in one day... haha WTF BBQ, most ever that I attempt. Bring on the ADDERALL!!!
Populating this into Google maps gives a quick high level mental picture.
Here are some pictures of the national parks. Holy fucking aesthetics.
If you want to join the trip, contact me ASAP: Squattincassanova at gmail dot com.
I do realize this is a 3 week trip and most people have jobs but if for some reason you're on a break or can take this long of a vacation, let me know! We are going to take a lot of pictures. If you don't have a camera, thats fine, we can take some for you. During the trip, we will probably talk about pickup, working out, travel stories, listen to audio books & comedy. The travel expenise will be divided into 1/3rd. This will be roughly 1000$ for a 3 week trip (not including food).
My roommate is currently a med school graduate and is moving to another city to begin residency work. He was a former student of mine and has currently lived in Vegas for the last 7 months. He racked up around 20-30 lays, learned most of what he needed to know in game and is now moving to further his career.
By end of June, 2014, I will need another roommate. I live in a high rise condo on the north end of the Las Vegas Strip. It is 1 minute away from Wynn/Encore/XS Nightclub. Its a two bedroom condo and is completely furnished. The cost will be $950 plus utilities per month.
This will be a great opportunity if you enjoy the Vegas nightlife or plan on improving your skills with game. Shoot me an email to squattincassanova at gmail dot com if you are potentially interested. I am looking for someone who is financially stable, clean, and has good character.
Most of my posts are practical, task oriented, do this, do that- get shit done sort of approach. This post is more like an RSD Tyler type of post where I am just free flowing my thoughts.
I don't talk about it much these days but I used to be a hardcore gamer (still am). Played over 10,000 games of Starcraft, had a level 95 Paladin from Diablo 2, played a few thousand games of Heroes of Newerth, a few thousand hours of Team Fortress Classic and Team Fortress 2 along with huge list of other games.
Occasionally, I still watch gaming videos on YouTube. I came across this video and WOW, strong FEELS in this one. I was trying to stay alpha but it brought a tear to my eyes. I thought I had a rough childhood with physical Asian parents who were never satisfied with my achievements and also never having any friends back in high school. I am not anywhere near this guy! Once I started doing pickup and saw success, I realized I was just being a little bitch and I didn't have it that bad. I would say the same applies to my students. I have had a few hard cases but no one comes near this guy.
Anyway watch the video:
He ends up marrying this girl... not bad!
Yay, happily ever after. Now lets tie this back into pickup. Here we have a morbidly obese guy, marrying what you would consider a very attractive girl. If assessing purely on looks, the guy hit the jackpot. You could say looks don't matter. Well yes and no. What people don't realize is that girls value different traits and assign different levels of importance to them. Every girl is different.
To some girls, being funny is very important but having a six pack is not. To some girls, money is important, but personality is not. To some girls, its more important to have a strong common interest above all else. I think when people refer pickup as a numbers game, it means that there are certain probabilities of girls who value certain traits over other traits. Now, certain qualities are more universal than others for example most girls like fit bodies than fat bodies. I have actually met girls who have chubby fetishes and have literally told me that I didn't have the body type for them. Although the percentages of the general population with chubby fetishes are small, they still exist, and its still a numbers game where I had the disadvantage for that particular set. When she told me that, I was like WTF!? Some times I would play the worst game possible and the girl would magically love me for no reason. Some times I would play phenomenally solid game, be with the girl for 2 hours and I don't get a call back the next day. I would still recommend you play solid game all the time, but some times girls would randomly like you.
I have seen many of this guy's videos and I would consider him a funny mother fucker. He is also a very avid gamer so he is probably respected among his peers as well as having a huge fan base. I would assume that his girl values humor and common interest above sheer physical aesthetics.
So in theory, you COULD be yourself, not change anything at all... and still get girls (assuming you have a few positive traits). Is it optimal against the general population? Absolutely not. You may ask... how does this guy cope with his disadvantages and highlight his strengths? The answer is simple. Hes got 2 million fucking subscribers on YouTube. Even if 1% of his viewers were females, that would still be 20,000 females. And if only 1% had a fetish for funny chubby guys, he would STILL have 200 girls potentially interested in him.
Now, I'm not telling you all to get 2 million subscribers in hopes of finding girls, but what I am telling you is that having common interest is a strong way to meet people. Furthermore, finding a means to reach out to girls is also very important. I have had students who can't approach worth shit but are able to meet a ton of girls because of what they do. One guy teaches acrobatic yoga. His authoritative position plus the fact hes always hands on with the girls lets him get dates really easily. I have other students who are artists and musicians. I don't even need to explain for you to figure out why this helps them get girls.
Cold approach is still the bread and butter, the holy grail of learning this stuff. It lets you make mistakes with no consequence. It forces you plow through bitchy girls and strike conversations with girls who absolutely don't want to have anything to do with you. However, once you start getting decent with cold approach and you're seriously trying to find the right girl, there are more efficient and better means than approaching purely random chicks from clubs. Seriously, I am so sick of pretending to be interested in chicks who work in retail and chicks who study psychology, communication, sociology. Shoot my brain please.
Pickup isn't Crossfit okay? You don't fucking tell everybody that you're doing it. Its taboo and nobody outside of pickup will understand you. Don't try to convince your non-pickup friends to approach with you. Don't tell your friends. And for fucks sake, don't tell chicks you're doing it. They are all going to hold you back, and pickup is hard enough as it is, stop wasting time and energy convincing people otherwise.
Funny story, last weekend. I was with a student in a 1on1. We ended up pulling these 2 girls to go hang out with us after the club. One girl was 25ish, and the other girl was 35ish (older coworker of the younger girl). I asked how their day in Vegas was and they told me a story about this one guy who got her number early in the day during the pool party. They told me how the guy was "normal" at first, but when he got the number, he started being weird and tried to force kiss them. When they rejected him, he started bragging that he was a PUA and that he knew Mystery in person. Pretending to be dumb, I asked the two girls who he was. They said... you know that guy from the show a few years back, the "The Pickup Artist?". I was like "Oh". Then the girl said "is that guy going to NEG me now? Oh God".
Deep down I am chuckling inside. First of all, no girl gives a shit you know Mystery, and second of all, having a pickup persona doesn't make you cool. It is quite common for guys to develop this once their approach anxiety has diminished and they start seeing some success. The second a girl knows you're actively trying to pick her up, her guard is going to go up. If she knows you're systematically doing this to a ton of girls, its pretty much game over.
Even for me, I had to learn some of this the hard way. Although I thank everything I learned from pickup and it has enriched my life in so many ways. The fact I keep so much of my life online, it has come to bite me in the ass many times over. When I quit my engineering job and moved to Vegas full time, sometimes I would tell girls what I really did. Some didn't believe me and others were fascinated and wanted to know all the details but the vibe didn't feel right. Eventually I just went back to telling girls I was an engineer.
I have had countless people that I really like end up finding about my YouTube channel and blog and ultimately end up never talking to me again. Sadly but true, when a girl starts to like you, she will start getting real nosy and try to find out what you're all about and start Googling you. Since my stuff is blasted so deep across the internet, I wonder if I can ever get married one day. Who ever that girl is, she better really open minded. Anyways, learn from my mistakes. Keep your pickup endeavors a secret...unless you can make millions off YouTube like SimplePickup.
This topic has been debated probably hundreds of times and its DIRECT vs. INDIRECT. If you know a bit of history, most of early pickup stuff was predominantly Indirect. In a few years following, there was a surge in popularity for Direct Game. You probably know the arguments for both.
Direct Game
More risk, more reward
More authentic
Faster escalation
Saves time
Indirect Game
You can't do direct game in social circle because it will make you a weirdo
You can't do direct game in work settings or certain situations that would make it inappropriate
Direct game doesn't work on HB10's and the really hot girls because they been hit on so many times.
I think its stupid when people fight over which is better. There is no such thing. Ultimately what is better depends on your current skill level and also your sticking points. Generally speaking, most beginners have issues with flirting, showing intent, and putting themselves on the line. Its a common sticking point for most beginners. Direct game is hands down the best way to start for complete beginners. It helps fix a lot of initial issues most beginners face and also, direct openers gives you harsher blowouts. The harder the blowout, the faster you numb yourself, and the quicker you can get out of your head, and the faster your approach anxiety fades. Eating rejections is the path to getting better. Beginners who start out indirect tend to learn it incorrectly. The girls can sense that they want something else and therefore the girls get the creepy vibe... when they feel someone has a different intention than they are projecting. Furthermore, guys who start learning pickup with indirect have a very hard time transitioning from platonic to sexual. This is why so many early guys in The Game did indirect for up to 18 months before they finally started getting lays (don't quote me I heard this from other people).
On the flip side, if you been going out for a long time and you get results and all you do is direct sexual openers and you are blatantly pissing off 95% of the girls by clawing, picking up, and doing the hand of god to every person in the club...you should start practicing indirect!
Some additional thoughts:
Obviously, you should learn both and ultimately, pickup is a numbers game. If you're in Vegas and all you're doing is trying to get laid, then sure, go ahead and screen hard for the girls who want sex, go direct, and escalate hard. But I will tell you this... its not going to work on every girl... especially if shes not attracted to you. Direct openers will almost immediately blow you out if shes not feeling it or if shes a really hot bitchy girl. If someone put a gun to your head and told you that you had one shot to approach and get that girl, your best best is to open indirect.
Ever get so many numbers you have no idea who that person is? This happens to me all the time. I open so many sets that its almost a blur. I pretty much will forget any girl who I spend less than 30 minutes with. Well chances are she has a Facebook account. I don't know why I just found this out today but you can enter their phone number in Facebook search and if they have a Facebook account, it will show their profile.
Great for those of you jackasses who always forget their names or even what they look like but don't have the button cam like me to record every little detail of the interaction :)
I get a lot of guys, especially in the science and tech field that have absolutely no opinions about anything. It becomes very apparent in group settings. Some guys just chill in the background and act passive and not engaged.
"Whats your favorite food?"
"Meh, I'll eat anything."
"What kind of girls do you like?"
"I don't really know"
"Where do you like to buy your clothes?"
"Whatever is on sale"
If I get answers like this repeatedly, I will make guys do opinion drills and here is the reason. Strong opinions is what makes conversations interesting and engaging. You will notice all guys with game will have strong opinions about EVERYTHING. Even on stuff they aren't even experts in! My natural friends always seems to have an opinion and they will back it up with bullshit even though I can refute them with logic and science. Whether their opinions are right or wrong is not the point. The point is to have them because it will help your game. And here is why:
Many guys will stay in neutral topics /conversations / generalities that nobody really agrees or disagrees... nor do they give a shit about. Such topics and examples can include:
"The weather is great today"
"Vegas is pretty warm"
"Its pretty busy at the mall, there's a lot of shoppers"
"Oh you're from Canada? It must be pretty cold over there"
When a girl hears topics like this, there is no spark or fuel for any engaging conversations. Shes most likely going to agree with you because its a general boring truth and the conversation thread ends there and you are most likely going to have to ask another dumb question or attempt to transition to another conversation thread.
On the other hand, if you have strong opinions about something, she is either going to strongly agree with it or strongly disagree with it. Either way, its going to spark a conversation. Any investment from the girls end is better than indifference. I would rather a girl be totally pissed off at me arguing over some topic than her facing the other way and ignoring me.
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The drill
Here is a great way to get better at this and its called doing opinion drills. I'm not going to be like other PUA newsletters that will say this instantly causes your game to increase by 1000% or that it will make you 100% in state and happy all the time but this will definitely improve your game if its an area that you are lacking in.
You can do this by yourself and its quite boring, or you can do it with a few friends. 3-4 people is ideal. Each person will write down 5 to 10 different words onto individual pieces of paper (they can be places, cities, food, names, and various other categories). Put it in a pile and then the group will each go around giving their opinions on each word.
I will start with a word and you can use this as an example:
Lamborghini
Here are some examples of what to think when you're giving an opinion of this word:
Do you think its flashy / douchey?
Do you think its practical?
Do you think its over priced?
Would you ever get this car?
What do you think about the interior / exterior compared to its competitor?
Would you want to drive it in the city or on the tracks?
Do you think it would be a pain in the ass to maintain?
Do you think it would help you get girls? Would you want the types of girls it would attract?
If you wouldn't get this car, what other car in its price range would you rather get and why?
These drills build core conversational foundations. A lot of people don't like to do them because they take effort and time. Don't expect your game to instantly skyrocket. They will take months for you to start cultivating strong opinions and also good basis for your opinions.
I will tell you guys a funny story. It was 3 years ago and one of my first car pulls. I met this girl off Plenty of Fish while I was visiting family in Seattle. First night back and I set up a day 2. Met at Starbucks and then after an hour, bounced her to a club in Downtown Seattle called SeaSound. My friends from high school happened to be there and so I was socially proofed. Since we had carpooled, I went back to the original parking lot where she had parked her car to drop her off.
She lived with her family and I was visiting my family and I didn't feel like getting a hotel. The only place to escalate was in the car. I had driven my car from California up to Seattle and my car windows were recently tinted that year. Its probably one of the best investments you can make for your car. The privacy helps a LOT when it comes to escalating and also prevents people from looking into your car and attempting to find things to steal.
The escalation was great until the ending. I just couldn't get it up! Couple of reasons.
1. First time buying a new pre-workout supplement called Jack3d. In the fucking original formula, this thing had a chemical called 1,3-dimethylamylamine. Essentially it gives you stim dick and it causes impotence for like 6 hours.
2. It was cold.
3. The parking lot cleaning truck was driving in circles around my car at 2am and I just realized I had left my headlight on the whole time and I was wondering why they had kept looking my way.
So a combination of chemicals, temperature, and being watched, and nervous, I couldn't get it up! I kept telling her, it wasn't ME! It was the pre-workout! So after finally jacking off and getting it up, I got the lay. The moral of the story is, that it sucks and hopefully none of you guys have to deal with this.
One of my great friends from Seattle and also a wing, got me a gift when he went to Asia. Apparently he bought this stash of special viagra that comes in a candy tasting gel form. Its called Kamagra gel. The very great thing I like about this is how quick the onset is once you take it. Since its in a candy gel and is in liquid form, you don't need to find water. You can literally take it within 5- 10 minutes and you will feel the effects. Its in a sachet and is the size of a condom wrapper. You can easily store it in your back pocket. The full dose is pretty strong so I only eat half or a third of the sachet contents.
I don't like the regular viagra which can take 40 minutes to work. That is a long time and you may not be able to predict if you can close or not. Sometimes you can pull a girl to your place and the signals are still not clear on whether or not you will get last minute resistance. It sucks having to take it and then the escalation doesn't happen and you're left with a bulging boner and elevated heart rate for the next 5 hours. Because the Kamagra gel takes 5-10 minutes to take effect, you can literally take it in the bathroom right before taking off your pants and it will start kicking in.
In my opinion, the best times to take this is if you have taken substances that are known to affect your performance. I am not going to elaborate on these as there are a ton of things that will cause this. The other thing is if you know the pull has a small window and you need to be able to close in a tight time frame in odd or weird locations where anxiety or high pressure can effect your performance. I am not going to lie, if I were to pull behind a dumpster in a cold winter night, I would probably take this. Or if you're pulling some fat ugly chick and you just can't get it up but you need to close her to get reference experience, you could take it too hahahah.
You can get it online. Its usually some over seas website and it takes around 2 weeks for shipping and processing. I just Google "order Kamagra gel". Look around, they should go down to only 50 cents per sachet. http://lmgtfy.com/?q=order+kamagra+gel
Usually the more bulk you buy, the cheaper the per unit cost.
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