Monday, December 23, 2013

Mistletoe Opener

Here is a great holiday opener you guys can use.  Its a lot of fun and you can get sexual very quick.  Literally bring a piece of mistletoe to the club with you.  Go up to a girl, smile, and then say "Mistletoe!" followed by an attempt to insta kiss. If she turns away or stops you, you say "Hey, I don't make the rules!", and then try again.  If you get the kiss, great, if not, transition to normal conversation.  The key to going for the kiss is to inch forward slowly as to give the girl time to react.  You don't want to face punch them with your mouth.

Now obviously, this is a pretty ballsy opener so guys with AA are probably not going to attempt it.  However, if you have manageable AA, its a lot of fun.  I did this opener last weekend and had great results.  Heck, I didn't even use real mistletoe.  I went up to a shrub in Marquee night club, tore off a piece and used that instead.  Out of like 12 or so girls I opened with that opener, only one girl called me out for not using real mistletoe.  Lets be cereal, these girls aren't botanists with understanding of mistletoe taxonomy, NOMSAYIN?

Your results will obviously vary depending on your delivery and your level of hotness.  Out of the 12 or so girls, I got like 2 insta makeouts and 3 kiss on the cheek but one of them I snuck a quick kiss on the mouth.   With an opener like this, its going to be high risk and high reward.  But since its such a simple and low investment opener, its great inside big clubs.  Even if you get denied a kiss, its still funny as fuck.  Again, just because she doesn't kiss you, it doesn't mean the set is done.  Keep going on the set.

PS: I give credit to Psych.  He has good game and also a big dick.

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Winging and Demoing

Not a specific how to post but just some thoughts and insights.


Winging
You don't need a wing to start out.  A lot of beginners feel the need to have a wing to go out.  Sure, its kind of cool to have a wing, you guys can pump each other's state and encourage each other and its a lot more fun... however from a technical point of view of the set, wings aren't necessary (when you're new).

The reason is this... a wing should not come in until the set is HOOKED.  The purpose of a wing is to help you ISOLATE your target from her friends.  If you're struggling to hook most sets, a wing coming in is likely to fuck up your set even more.  You should just be working on your own verbals.  Think about it.  If the set is not hooked, its very volatile.  Any time you reach a low point, the set is at risk of leaving.  What happens when the wing comes in?  Its an initial disruption to the set and a lot of times the girl will leave as soon as the wing comes in because you have to address your wing and some times the girls take that opportunity to leave.

The only exception is if your wing is significantly better than you.  In that case, you're going to passively learn from him.  However, if you suck, and your wings suck too, just go out solo till you're at a decent level.

Personally, I show up to venues with  friends however, most of the time I just run my own sets.  Its always served me quite well.  We usually meet up afterwards for food.  Only in certain instances, I will text my friends to come wing me if I feel like there is a window opening and I need a distraction.  I usually don't do the whole night alternating winging and being winged.

In a nutshell, don't go out with someone just because you feel the need to have a wing.  A wing who is skilled is great but a shitty wing is far worse than going out solo.

Demoing
Obviously, I demo during infields however, I do demos that I feel are pertinent to the students skill level.  If you have massive approach anxiety, I will focus the demo on ways to get in state and how to rapidly open sets.  I'm not going to try and demo on how to have a fucking 6-some.  Seriously last week, a student told me that instead of him opening and approaching that night, he just wanted me to open a 3-set of hot girls, pull them ALL to my condo, he would wing me and have the other student wing the 3rd girl, and we would all have a merry 6-some orgy.  Are you fucking kidding me?  This isn't fairy tale land where you read some pickup books and you're magically Hugh Heffner.  Even if I brought 3 girls back to my pad, the other 2 students wouldn't have the skills to pull it off.  They were complete beginners.

Also, if you are a student and I am demoing, don't try to wing me.  It usually doesn't work out that way.  Just observe me (if you want to see me progress further in set).  This applies more so to loud venues and dance floor environments where girls are ADD and you don't get to utilize your verbals as much because its too loud.  I was a Hakkasan and I opened an Asian girl set and my student comes in literally less than 1 minute later, the set wasn't hooked and the girls said "Is that your friend, HAHAHA".  I told them they were a bitch for judging my friend.  Fucking Asian girls.

A lot of pickup guys don't realize that most people are friends because they share commonalities and this doesn't including browsing the same pickup forum lair.  People who are friends tend to be in same social circles, have similar levels of fashion, hobbies, and as crazy as this sounds, similar levels of fitness and attractiveness.  Look at groups of girls in social circles and clubs.  If you look at a group of 5 girls, their level of attractiveness is maybe +/- 2 give or take on a rough level.  You're are rarely going to see a fucking HB10 stunner standing next to a 300 pound Rosie O'Donnell lookalike.  Birds of a feather flock together.

What does this mean?  If your wing exercises, you should too.  If your wing wears a suit to the club, don't be that guy that wears an oversized t-shirt with dirty baggy pants and sneakers.  Actually make it look like you guys really do hang out.  If the wingman's skill is better, he can usually wing.  Just note, he needs to tone down his energy as to not steal the show.  If the wingman's skill is worse, he is likely to ruin the set unless he has a baseline level of ability.  For example, I can usually wing my students no problem (after they hook), but few students can wing me unless its a very low energy environment and the girls are receptive.

Pics of me winging my student.  I dunno why he gave me the prettier girl.  Not my fault!

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Toronto Eaton Mall PUA Bannings and Day Game Consequences

Most of you guys have seen this video.  The video is my first set of the day at Eaton Mall in Toronto.  The girl immediately asks if I was part of a group because 3 guys had previous approached her with a similar opener.  All of which failed to get her number which I did easily but that's not the point of this post lol.




This was 2 months ago.  But since, the mall has gotten even worse when it comes to PUA running around rampant that security is now purposefully looking for guys approaching girls.  Here are some related links.

http://www.torontolife.com/style/random-stuff-goods/2013/12/06/pickup-artists-eaton-centre/
http://www.cbc.ca/player/News/ID/2423745669/


I want to share my perspectives because if guys keep doing this, they are going to ruin day game for all of us.



Day game is very different than night game.
There are things in game you want to learn like dominance, kino, physical escalation, hard teases. Practice and learn that shit in NIGHT GAME.

Day game is not night game. Its not a social environment where people are primed to talk. People are out and about in their own worlds doing random errands and not with the intentions of socializing to strangers.

Also, day game isn't fueled by alcohol which means any type of weirdness and creepiness will be detected and picked up by the girl. You can get away with being somewhat weird if you have good energy level and you're a lot of fun at night, but it is very noticeable during the day. All that weird gamey shit and routines that kind of work at night comes across creepy during the day.

The world is much smaller than you think.
When I started pickup, I used to think the world was my wonderland. There would be infinite number of sets and I would be totally anonymous. The world is MUCH MUCH smaller than you think. I have bumped into the same girls dozens of times. Lots of girls have seen my infield videos and called me out and I have never met them ever. I have met girls in one city and bumped into them in another city. If I have an infield footage of a girl without blurring their face, there is a 50% chance they will find out. Don't forget I am in one of the biggest metropolitan areas in the United States. Los Angeles and Vegas are big fucking playgrounds. Even still, its pretty small. Keep in mind, the bigger the playground, the more other PUAs there are out there. Places like 3rd Street Promenade of Santa Monica, Beverly Hills Center Mall, Fashion Valley Mall of San Diego are all rampant with pickup dudes. With a trained eye, its so easy to spot.

The things you do have serious repercussions. The very reason of what makes day game awesome is that the approaches appear genuine and that its the first time in a long while the girl has been approached. A girl who has been approached during the day with failed attempts will feel much more awkward than if she got hit on poorly in a club because in a club, its expected.

If you're the first person who approached her in a month, the interaction is likely going to be great (assuming you have skills). However, if she was approached poorly even just once that day... its going to negatively affect your interactions significantly.
Problems with in-field videos and glamorization of flash game and instant makeouts.
Two main reasons. Lots of videos on YouTube tell you that its okay to do whatever the fuck you want and just be in state. You see lots of videos where guys do anti-anxiety drills like dancing in public, or shouting in public, or doing ridiculous things. Learning pickup has lots of segments in which you acquire a skill by going the extreme, but once you learn it, you need to SCALE back. For example, people who run out of things to say will need to learn how to plow and be the never ending talker. But at at the certain stage, you need to actually scale back and talk less so the girl can start talking and invest. The same applies with dealing with anxiety. Doing too much anti-anxiety drills can make you become numb to social norms. When you do weird shit over and over and over... it becomes a habit and you become a weird dude. Doing these drills once you are able to manage anxiety and approach does not provide additional benefits and in fact will be more detrimental.

The last point is the glamorization of flash game. People think its sooooo cool to go up to a girl in the mall and start making out. That's fucking weird and invasion of privacy. You can not force kino like that. It makes girls VERY uncomfortable. Now you might ask... "can you pull it off?". The answer is YES, you CAN pull it off, but it will be a very small percentage of girls. Obviously you see instructor level guy doing infields where they are doing insta-makeouts. However, do you know how many girls they have creeped out BEFORE getting that select few footages and only uploading THOSE FEW footages on YouTube? And imagine if thousands of people watch that and attempt this, how quickly a mall can get blown out?

If the end game is to go on a day 2 with a girl, there really is no reason to try to makeout with her in the mall. What for? Its just fucking flash. Be normal, make a solid connection, set up a day 2 that favors you logistically and have it be in an environment that IS seducible.

The first barrier in pickup is eliminating anxiety. A percentage of men do that. However, there is a relatively large percentage of guys that are stuck in this plateau. They don't get that much better at game and they don't get better with calibration. As a result, they attempt to increase lay count by sheer volume and doing the numbers game. Essentially, they are running the same shit routine / style and getting conversions by pure brute force numbers. If you think about it, their game really isn't getting any better. And if too many people run shitty numbers game.... you're going to have a lot of pissed off women. Every girl has different levels of receptiveness. Some are down for instant makeouts, some aren't. You must evaluate accordingly.

General guidelines with day game.

  • Open from behind, but once she turns around, you need to stop.  If you don't stop, she won't stop.  Continue to deliver your opener even if she is appearing to continue walking because she has to overcome some forward inertia.
  • If you can't get her to stop, too bad.  You're done.  Never follow a girl during day game.
  • If she says she has a boyfriend, don't persist.  Say "Hes a lucky guy" and eject.
  • Pay attention to your surroundings.  The less people around the more noticeable you are.  Pay attention to security guards, pay attention to hired guns who are staying outside of the store handing out freebies.  If you notice people staring at you for an extended amount of time, its time to move to another location.
  • It is tempting to open hired guns because they work there and they tend to be nicer.  However, because the fact they work there means they can't walk away from you, which creates an awkward situation if it doesn't go well.  Also because they are working there, you are likely to bump into them again and again in the future.
  • No crazy peacocking that makes you stand out but also don't dress like a kiosk seller (typically black shirts).
  • Again, try to be "normal".  Save the crazy shit for night game (my favorite).

Monday, December 9, 2013

Massage Oil Escalation

Here is a quick how to post and it pertains to end game.  This is one method that has worked consistently.  I don't know why I keep telling you guys my best secrets.  I am pretty sure some girl is going to read my blog sooner or later and call me out on my tactics.

It helps to know how to actually give a good massage.  Just go to a massage place and get a few deep tissue massages to you know some techniques.  Its really not that hard.

Basically you remove all the chairs in your room so she has to sit on your bed.  Turn on some good music.

Start giving her a neck massage sitting down.  Then go ahead and make her face down and start giving her a back massage.  At this point, the clothes are still on.

When she starts getting into it, tell her you got a this new Kama Sutra massage oil kit from your friend who works at the massage place (your friend aka Amazon) and you are dying to try it.  Basically you tell her to take her shirt off because you don't want to get oil on her shirt (totally valid reason!).  At this point bra is probably still on.  As you get more and more oil on her, you eventually tell her the bra needs to come off.  Then you start rubbing her legs and quickly gloss your hands on the bottom side where her boobs are.  The key is to do it very quickly to test the waters.  You don't want to plant your hand on her boobs unless you know shes down.  You basically slowly have your hands run across it longer and longer until she is totally okay with your hands there.  You can rub her thighs with her pants on and basically get your hands close to her crotch.  The idea is gradually acclimate her to your touches.  At this point, shes probably wet.  You should probably have your shirt off.  Having a six pack obviously helps.

From here, you can either take off her pants and massage her legs and then flip her over, or you can flip her over with her pants on and start making out with her.  At this point, you should be dry humping her.  Once you feel like shes getting more into it, you tell her that her pants are really rough and uncomfortable and you take off both your pants off.

Obviously no means no.  If she pushes you off, stop.  If its token resistance, here are some common responses.

When pants are still on
"We're not having sex"
"Of course not, we are just dry humping"

When underwear still on
"W'ere not having sex"
"I just want you to straddle me"

When completely naked
'"We're not having sex"
"Of course not, I just want to rub it on your clit"
or
"Of course not, I'm just going to put it in real quick, and I will pull it right back out"

Just remember to pay attention if its token resistance or real resistance.  Unless you're totally uncalibrated, its not hard to tell.  If shes still doing what you guys were previously doing... its still on.

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Almost half way done with mine hehe!


Friday, November 29, 2013

10 Questions Girls Should Know About You Before Sex

I give credit to Sinn, who's pretty legit

Here it is!


  1. Your name.
  2. What you do for a living.
  3. Do you have brothers or sisters?
  4. What you do for fun.
  5. Your passions.
  6. Are you close to your family?
  7. Who are your friends, best friends, oldest friends?
  8. Whats your longest relationship?
  9. Where did you grow up?  Did you move a lot?
  10. Did you go to college?

Some general advice.  Obviously this is for guys who are able to get past attraction.  You don't want to go up to a girl and start asking and answering these questions right after the opener.  This is for guys who can sometimes pull but don't get enough comfort built up and end up in last minute resistance land.

These are just recommended and frequently brought up comfort questions so take it with a grain of salt.  Certainly, you don't have to answer all 10 before any particular girl has to have sex with you.  I've skipped 70% of these before and still able to close, but again, this is a general guideline.  If you're getting LMR, this is probably one of the reasons.

You also don't want to be going down this list like a robot, this should organically flow out in normal conversations.  I would do most of this after you have isolated the girl.  You have 1-2 hours to go through these so it shouldn't appear forced.


If you are a newbie, do not open with these questions!

Monday, November 25, 2013

Same Night Logistics

One of the most frustrating things in game are late game logistical hiccups.  Sometimes a pull can be in the bag and then its as if someone pulls the curtains right under you.

There are just so many external factors that can fuck up your pull that once you sense a girl is pullable, you need to start babysitting your set and watch them like they are literally 4 year old toddlers and definitely don't let them out of your sight.  If they need to use the bathroom, you guard the bathroom entrance!.  Again, this is the point in which you believe the girl is pullable and you are going for it.  The truth of the matter is, girls do a lot of dumb things in the club.  Almost every night I go out, I see something I want to face palm.  Here's a list of things that have happened to girls that my wing, my students, and I have been in set with.

  • Losing their phone or wallet
  • Passing out
  • Puking all over the place, including car
  • Trip over the stairs and spraining an ankle
  • Start being overly dramatic about some stupid event that happened earlier in the day
  • Complaining about their massive feet pain
  • Some other stupid thing that has happened to their friends

I find that if you play solid game, its easier to pull girls that are more sober.  Things just tend to go wrong less often.  Its not to say that girls who drink too much aren't pullable, sure they are... but a lot of times its just a pain in the ass.  Nothing kills my boner more than a pile of puke in my car...

When I say babysit, I'm talking about making sure they don't lose anything or leave anything behind.  If they had a few extra drinks, make sure to support them and not have them trip over stairs or hurt themselves.  Prevent them from drinking too much if you can anticipate that happening.

Here is an example of botched logistics.  My two students were in a two set.  A pull was literally about to go down but one girl decides to lose her fucking phone and one of my guys loses the key back to the condo which was essential for pulling.  (I was lucky to later bump into the bouncer who found the key).  Losing a phone and being an overly dramatic Asian girl pretty much equal kiss your pull goodbye.

The following is frame capture of the set that I recorded.  It was very on and the makeout was around the 4 minute mark so it got physical very fast.  They quickly moved to the dance floor and a double pull was imminent.  Then... shit storm.








To Student #1


Talking to student #2 and I find out girl loses the phone.


Student #1 tells me he loses the key to the condo.  My roommate was not around.  This would guarantee no pull unless they manage to pull to the girls place.



Now that the option of pulling to our place was gone, I suggested pulling to their place.  At the end I find the key and let them know that the condo was still an option.



Crying girl = GG.  I was with student #3 in a totally different set and by the time I found the other 2, the girls were gone.




Thursday, November 21, 2013

Results / Testimonials

Written testimonials are boring and staged photographs are... well staged.  Just because a girl is willing to drink with you at your table, it doesn't mean anything really.

I present to you, legit results from my students.  The proof is in the pudding.



Vegas Bootcamp Nov, 2013

Student flies in from East Coast for first bootcamp and pulls both nights.
 




Two great guys to work with who are super positive and motivated.  I am constantly amazed and impressed with how my clients are in other areas of their lives outside of pickup.  On the road back to LA from Vegas, we discussed logistics on setting up with a girl who seemed interested.  Sure enough, Tuesday night (2 days later), I get a confirmation text.



Vegas Bootcamp Oct, 2013

On a self development work conference in Vegas.  Had a free night to take an infield and then pulled the next night.  Not bad of a trip.





This energetic young man and his friends booked a trip to Vegas.  He had the opportunity to do a 3 day 1on1.  The good thing is that he gets to travel for his job.  The bad thing is that he is currently stuck in Alaska (no sets lol).  He still manages to close 2 weeks later.  I guess girls need body heat in that frigid tundra wilderness.





Austin Bootcamp Sept, 2013
Fellow engineer who lifts.  Edu + Physique + Career = Fuark GG.





Vegas Bootcamp Aug, 2013


It all started in Seattle while looking for a pair of jeans and doing some day game.  Then signs up for a 10 day bootcamp in Vegas and well... holy fuck a shit ton of lays.  Now he lives in Vegas :).






LA Bootcamp July, 2013

Same night lay infield footage coming soon! (blurring face in progress)



LA Bootcamp March, 2013

In this video, I help my student essentially go from a 30 second blowout to completely pulling the girl.


Tuesday, November 19, 2013

One New Activity A Month

In a recent Vegas bootcamp, I catch one of my guys stacking the question train to a ridiculous amount.  I counted nine questions in a row.  The fifth question was almost a repeat of the 2nd question.  In attempts to quick fix this for the next set, I asked him some of the places he has traveled and some of the things he has done to prime his mind with some statements he can make immediately after opening.

Well, working 70 hours in a lab for the last few years doing clinical research pretty much sums up 95% of his life.  I think everyone knows this deep down but... in order to sound interesting, you kind of have to do interesting things.  This goes beyond doing some stupid magic tricks.

In this post, I want to cover:

  1. How to find interesting things.
  2. Why knowing just a little bit about a topic goes a long ways.
  3. How things you experience can help you transition to multiple topics and conversational threads.

How to find interesting things.

I am going to keep this simple.  Go to Groupon.com.  You will find tons of interesting things that you have never tried.  (and no I don't make money off this)

  • Yoga, dance, golf
  • Skydiving
  • Hot air balloon
  • Race car driving
  • Wine tasting
  • Snorkeling, kayaking
  • Crossfit, weightlifting
  • Shows, concerts, performances
I strive to do one new thing every month.  Most of these activities range from $50 to $100.  You are looking at saving $15-$25 per week; easily doable.  Try activities that vastly differ from each other.  When it comes to activities, you never know what you like until you actually try it.  I pick activities based on a few criteria which include: how much of a discount, how interesting of a conversation piece, and does it challenge your fears?  If you're afraid of heights, go bungee jumping.  Nothing cures beta than challenging your fears.

Why knowing just a little bit about a topic goes a long ways.
There is nothing wrong with asking questions.  The problem is most people ask too many surface level questions and they never dive deep enough to allow the other person to truly invest and talk about their passions.  Its hard to dive into a topic if you know absolutely jack shit about that topic.
  • Its hard to talk about Diablo 3 if the other dude has never played an RPG and doesn't know WTF a mana pool is.
  • Its hard to talk about Starcraft if the other person doesn't know what micromanagement is.
  • Its hard to talk about Photography if the other person doesn't know what glass, ISO, aperture, and shutter speeds are.
  • Its hard to talk about Bodybuilding if the other person doesn't know what whey protein is.
Just like most people, I don't want to spend a lot of time answering surface level questions just to bring the other person to speed on the topic and thus, as a result, most people just answer "I like it" or "its cool".  Basically the topic never turns into fruition and it dies, leading YOU to likely ask another dumb question.

The beauty of dabbling into a lot of different topics is that you have enough baseline knowledge to make enough smart questions and enough statements to get the other person to open up about whatever topic interests them.  Also, the learning curve on anything is the steepest when starting out, giving you the most bang for your time.  

How things you experience can help you transition to multiple topics and conversational threads.

I will give you an example.  This week, I did a Groupon deal for a hot air balloon ride.  I experienced enough that I can take this story and transition it to a lot of different other topics.  I will give you some examples.

  • Different atmosphere levels and wind speeds; ideal gas law and flotation -> science if shes a nerdy girl
  • History of hot air balloons; it got mistaken for a dragon; why they drink champagne with hot air balloons -> European history
  • Exciting and thrill seeking activity -> scary moments and close encounters
  • Floating over La Jolla / Del Mar -> affluent neighborhoods in San Diego with swimming pools and tennis courts.
  • Saw Janet Jackson's house from above -> didn't see her nude sunbathing, missed out on TMZ moment
  • Found it on Groupon -> interesting activities the girl has done

As you can see, with a simple activity, I just opened myself to a TON of potential conversational seeds.  I like to keep my posts simple and action oriented.  Go ahead and do one new activity this month that you have never done before.  Here are some pictures of the hot air balloon ride :)







Thursday, November 14, 2013

Cross Country Road Trip - 10/2 - 10/6 (New York City)

Tues-Sun 10/2 - 10/6 New York City

If Vegas is considered night game mecca, then I guess NYC can be considered day game mecca.  There are sets virtually everywhere.  Since 70% of Manhattan residents don't drive...this leads to them either walking, busing, taking the taxi, or riding the subway.  The result is you having lots of encounters with girls walking everywhere.  Furthermore, the city has a high concentration of single females... which is the reverse that of California.  California is actually quite a cockfarm despite wannabe models and aspiring actresses.



Since living conditions are tiny, most places in Manhattan don't include a kitchen.  This explains why most people in NYC eat out all the time.  Wouldntwantanewyorkerforawife.jpg.  Eating out and always walking outside does promote more social skills.  I do feel a different vibe when I encounter NYC girls.  Their personalities on average are different than that of LA girls.  LA people drive everywhere and thus, tend to be in their own personal bubble all the time. NYC is definitely one of the major cities to check out on the east coast.  I think the top 3 of my choice obviously were the ones I had visited before; Miami, Washington DC, and New York.  Washington DC is more for the culture.  Pickup is terrible there.

The only downside of NYC is logistics.  Perhaps I haven't been there long enough but parking and the public transportation all seem like a pain in the ass.  Everything is tiny and dirty.  I had to download an app just to figure out the subway station.  During the day time, we parked our cars near Times Square, the parking bill was 55 dollars.  I haven't sarged in Europe but I would guess day game is similar to that of London? (speculating here, London seems like a great place with lots of international girls).

Times square is full of people for day game but it is touristy.   For night game, we ended up going to the meat packing district and also lower east side to a place called Pianos.  There we bumped into quite a few RSD guys and also Psych who were all running bootcamps there.










Tuesday, November 5, 2013

Alpha Video



A lot of videos tell you about what works and what doesn't from a conceptual point of view, however, its nice to see a video where they do head to head simulations on how to be alpha and what works and what doesn't.

I think most people are aware of the concepts shown in this video but actually seeing it done is pretty cool.

The two biggest things that resonated with me are:

1.  Size matters.
2.  Fake it till you make it.

Sheer size alone will prevent most guys from coming to AMOG you.  Yes you can make up for it with body language and strong lock-in body positioning with the girl, however you have to put more effort in making your sets more solid and guys will be judging you from a distance and they won't see how you will react till after the fact.  I can tell from personal experience, its very rare for guys to come into my set even if I am doing poorly.  Basically just work out, and get big.  The video demonstrates the two scenarios between the big guy and the small guy pretty well.

The second one is fake it till you make it.  There are a lot of misconceptions about the term congruence.  Yes be congruent to yourself and your true path, if its a GOOD thing.  However, if you have bad habits and you know it will negatively affect your set, DO not attempt to be congruent with your bad behaviors.  Instead, FAKE it till you MAKE it.  If the set is high energy and you're tired and you don't feel like approaching, do not be congruent with your low energy behavior.  Fake the energy level to match the set or you will get blown out.  Ever open a set that is dancing and jumping up and down and you open with a quiet weak opener?  Boom, instant ignore and blow out.

If you are pulling a girl out of the venue and you are unsure of yourself.  Do you be congruent and act like you are unsure because that's how you feel on the inside?  Fuck no!  Fake it till you make it.  Pretend like you know what you're doing and where you're going.  Walk like you're sure of yourself while you're scrambling on your Android Yelping the next best pull location lol.  I noticed its okay to ask for directions as long as you're not stopping and hesitating.  For example, if I am in Vegas and I am lost while pulling, always ask the guys in suits and earphones for directions rather than walking around lost.  After acquiring directions, give them a high five or a fist pump and make it seem like you know the guy.  Social proof while acquiring logistics.  Double win!

Lastly, displaying alpha body language like holding your hands in the air and making a scream in the beginning of the night will help you punch through those initial approach anxiety barriers.

Saturday, November 2, 2013

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Terribad Girl Texters

Jesus Christ, some girls have pretty god awful texting.   Maybe I should wear a wig, call myself Michaela and teach girls too.



Strong WTF.

Monday, October 28, 2013

Peruvian Day 2 at Comedy Show

Comedian:  We got a diverse crowd up in here tonight!  (looks around at the front isle).   We got some Black people, we got an old rich White man, and we got an Asian dude fucking a Mexican girl! (referring to me and my day 2)

Girl: I'm not Mexican

Comedian:  Are you Asian?

Girl:  Nope

Comedian: WTF, there can only be two options.  What are you going to tell me you're from Mars?

Girl: I am Peruvian

Comedian:  Same shit as Mexicans except with llamas!


LULZ.


I love getting the front seat at comedy shows.  The effect is far different than sitting way in the back.  You pick up on way more things from the comedians.  You also get called out a lot since most comedy places do not have a ton of Asians.  Furthermore, if you are with a non Asian girl, aka White, Latina, Black...the comedians usually say some pretty funny shit; either that or they're flat out confused.

When you get called out, some times its good, some times its bad.  I'll share one of each.  One time I took a Black girl out on a Day 2, and the comedian was Mexican.  He asked who there was on their first date.  I raised my hand.  He literally went on a 10 minute bit about Asians and small dicks (to a Black girl).  This was 2 years ago and I didn't get the lay.  Fuck you comedian.  Its not like Mexicans are known for big dicks.  Some have small ones, I been to LA fitness locker rooms.

On another occasion, I took a White girl to the comedy club, the guy asks who was on their first date and I raised my hand.  He made us get on stage and bought us each two shots.  Then he made us make out in front of the entire audience.  Winning.  I did end up closing that night.

You win some and you lose some... but you always have a good story.  How does this relate to pickup?  Comedians are some of the best cold readers out there and they will always have something to say after your answer.  That is the essence of a natural.  Naturals don't need routines.  They can take a boring ass response to "where are you from" and turn it into something funny or tease the girl.  You can't take cameras or recording devices to a comedy show but you sure can take a pen and paper.  Take some notes while you're there!

To some of my nosy readers out there.  The Day 2 went fine.  She was into me physically, no much game was needed.  I'm not going to the nitty gritty details unless its funny or game mechanics related but she is driving an hour to hang out with me next weekend.  Watch, I'm going to jinx myself and shes going to find my blog like they all do last minute and I get flaked on... FML.  The comedian was Jay Phillips.  Funny guy.  If you haven't already added the Improv on Facebook, make sure you do.  They give free tickets all the time

https://www.facebook.com/ontarioimprov
https://www.facebook.com/TheIrvineImprov
https://www.facebook.com/HollywoodImprov
https://www.facebook.com/BreaImprov
https://www.facebook.com/Thasanjoseimprov




Friday, October 25, 2013

Cross Country Road Trip - 9/26 - 9/29 (Miami)

Thurs-Sun 9/26 - 9/29 Miami, FL

I am back from my road trip but I want to keep writing about my experiences.

We were in Miami for about 3 and a half days.  We got an mediocre hotel on South Beach because that's where most of the partying was located.  Parking was costly and difficult and the hotel was fairly expensive for what its worth.

The first night out was Thursday, we checked out LIV.  Its probably the biggest club on the east coast, ranking just below a few of the top Vegas clubs like XS, Hakkasan, Marquee.  They fucking charged us 60 dollars for cover on a Thursday night.  It can be as high as 200$ on the weekends if a hot DJ shows up.  The poor 35 year old girls beside us also had to pay 30 dollars LOL.  I think for a girl, that probably hurts your ego even more when you have to pay and the 21 year old right next to you walks right in for free  Because there are less competition and less big clubs in Miami, they are more selective and anal about letting certain people in.  Can you imaging a bunch of PUA guys all trying to get in?  Hard as hell.  The clubs here open at 11:30pm and go to 5am in the morning, even later than Vegas.



Now back to how it relates to pickup...  
There is no patio in LIV, its one of the loudest, most heavily bass sounding venues I have been to; not very good for conversations.  I also noticed a lot of ugly older dudes with not much game hoarding all the tables and that's where all the hot girls are.  The average age of men inside were older than what I have seen in LA and Vegas and a lot of them did look like chodes which leads me to believe that a lot of girls here are looking for men of wealth.  This doesn't necessarily mean that you can't game them, its just harder to even approach and also they are looking for a different agenda.  A lot of girls are immigrants from other countries.

While walking on south beach we opened quite a few sets.  The demographics here are different than that of west coast.  West coast latinas are typically Mexican.  Miami latinas are more diversified including Puerto Rican, Central American, South American (Brazillian).  Also you see a lot of eastern European as well.  Conversations opened pretty well. The place does seem day game friendly.   You also see a lot of average looking girls though.  Don't assume that its just all hot babes laying around everywhere because its not true.  South Beach is one of the few beaches were girls tan with their tops off.  Bring a pair of sunglasses so you don't seem like a creeper.

During the other nights, I was teaching boot camps. We went to Clevelander and Mango Tropical cafe.  The Venues were mehhh.  Can't compare to Vegas.  Miami supposedly has one of the highest concentrations of single women, making it a city that is favorable for dating if you are a man.  If you like Latinas and a lot of European, the beach, and a change of scenery, check it out.  Its certainly prettier than Vegas.  However, if you want to practice pickup with logistical efficiency, sheer number of sets... of course Vegas hands down.

One of the popular venues on South Beach is Nikki Beach and is popular on Sundays.  We didn't have time to check it out but I wanted to.  I would have slapped on my bright orange short shorts and did some beach game but we went to Key West and then started heading for NYC.